This isn’t a personal journal and I don’t really wanna whine and moan so I’ll keep this short (but not so sweet…). I love writing and finding stuff for this blog more than you guys will ever know and when I update 3 or 4 times a day, it’s because I literally can’t wait to share what I’ve found or what I’ve seen with you guys. I must be completely naive to think that the blogosphere is like Pleasantville or something because I’ve always been under the impression that if you didn’t like a blog or a post, you’d just close your browser – end of story, la la la, life goes on. Then I read feuds going on at other quarters of the blogging world, get malicious emails (which I still get FYI) or when people leave hurtful comments (and yes, I’m a girl too, so there’s only so much I can take i.e. fat comments and ‘God you have the ugliest clothes ever’ really DOES kinda sting……). And then suddenly, there’s this sour taste in my mouth like I’ve sucked a metal spoon for too long or something and I’ve lost my appetite to blog or I feel like I have to hold back a little. As traffic is steadily building up and with more and more prominent linkings, this problem will probably only increase and yes, if I’ve made my bed, I know I have to lay in it. But I’ll ask once again in my little girl voice: ‘Why can’t we all just get along?’.
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Hey…just remember, you have fabulous style, are a GREAT writer (super creative), and are gorgeous! For every nasty reader out there, there are 20 who love your blog! So keep up the great work and ignore the shit that comes along with it.
Hi, I just discovered your blog and have enjoyed it immensely! I think it’s amazing that you have spent so much time and effort on it (seriously, I can barely update my myspace page). You’re a great little writer with loads of style so keep it up and ignore any negativity – they’re just jealous (or bitchy queens!)
I think when you first start out, people come back because they love what you do. As you get bigger, people come back just to see what all the fuss is about. Where’s the fuss, there’s backlash to fuss. Does that make sense?
I have yet to get a single negative email or comment, but it’s because I don’t have your following. So think of it as: more negativity is just a sign that more and more people out there are finding and liking your blog.
I say just delete the comments and ignore them. Don’t dignify it with a response – it’s just spam in my opinion.
To you and Julie: please don’t let this stuff light your fuse. Taking it personally and getting upset only makes you a target for trolls. On the internet not everyone is nice.
But on your own blog you control the delete button – use it and move on! Keep bringing us your lovely fashion insights and disallow anonymous comments.
^Yes, I have thought about that option but then could one argue that by disallowing comments you’re oppressing people’s right to express an opinion. I suppose by definition saying I look fat in black IS an opinion………. a hurtful one….but an opinion nonetheless……
I dunno where to draw the line…..
Personally, I allow anyone to comment, but if it’s an anonymous attack, I delete it. Like I said, I consider that spam and I treat it like spam.
Considered feedback and dissenting opinions are welcome. But on my blog I don’t resort to personal attacks and I don’t accept it from readers either. That’s where you draw the line.
Do Not Engage The Trolls. That is what they want. The more you let them get to you, the more they will target you. On TFS, the mods take care of it and keep the forum clean. On your own blog Susie you are the mod and you make the rules.
You do this blog for your own enjoyment! We’re here because you allow us to be here. Remember you can also ban IPs 😉
Why should you let others oppress you? You have the *right* to run your blog any way you please.
Don’t care about your detractors! You have many more people who love you 🙂
As everyone else says: Do Not Feed The Trolls. Without attention they starve to death! Not oppressing their opinions at all – blogs aren’t wholly public spaces, and it’s quite ok for actions (e.g. being very rude) to have consequences (deletion).
i say just delete all personal attacks. would you leave a comment up if someone said something blatantly racist, sexist or otherwise? i’d say fat comments and cruel comments are just as hateful. it’s your blog, and if the only self-expression they can manage is bitchiness that adds nothing to the conversation, then who cares about them?
~You’re fabulous~ so don’t stress about the people who think you’re not.
p.s. if they’re not enjoying your blog then they should stop reading it!
susie, you are one of the nicest persons with admirable style that i know. seriously. so please stop worrying about all the dumb, unsubstantiated comments. pretty please?
Susie, you’re doing an awesome and inspiring job. This is YOUR blog, and you have every right to express YOUR opinions. I follow this blog precisely because I love your personal take on things. Unfortunately, vicious attacks are directly proportionate to the rise in fame. You don’t deserve to be attacked because you’ve never presented yourself as a know-it-all. The old “sticks and stones” adage is wrong–words do hurt a lot more than blows ever will–but just remember the people who make those petty comments are trashy twits who aren’t worth your time and energy. If they want to be famous (in a good way) and think they’re all that, let their own blogging skills do the talking.
i think it’s strange that you get so much negative/hateful spam because i adore your blog. it’s so informative but in a nonelitist fashion, and you have such a unique style. i hope the hate comments don’t ever deter you from posting.
as far as what to do about the hating, i would think of it in this way: people write hateful things because they can (anonymously!). its not you they hate. i think it’s very thoughtful and diplomatic of you to not delete comments, but remember it’s your blog!
I’m sorry that ‘a’ still needs the need to visit and read your blog and make hurtful comments that aren’t constructive at all. I applaude you for not out and out naming this mysterious ‘a’. As for your blog I visit it twice a 2 usually your posts bring out that inner fashion geek that as a child looked foward to watching The Clothes Show every Sunday.
susie –
today was a day of absurdities. and i understand where you’re coming from. but, you do “this” because you love “this” and that should be your only motivator.
and for every one person who has something nasty to say, or says something just to get under your skin, remember there are at least 100 of us against that one lonely person, who are cheering you on.
Mantra of the day: DO NOT FEED THE TROLLS.
I guess, (and I realise I’m feeling a wee vunerable here) deep down, suddenly the little insecure monsters are coming out. Negative comments about the blog or my posts are fine – just adds to the mix of opinions! But you know, attacking my style or my weight – suddenly I’m like ‘Ok……. maybe loads of people are thinking the same thing thing and they’re all too polite to say’. Obviously putting pictures of myself up on the internet is like putting myself up for judging – except instead of an odd comment from a passerby on the street, it’s thousands of people browsing this blog. It is no wonder that most fashion blogs tend to blog quite annonymously and in a very detached way……..
Oh come on! It’s like high school! Girls are always jealous of the most nice/beautiful/popular girl! This goes for blogs as well! You have the popular blog in this fashion blogosphere and other bloggers are just jealous! Don’t take it personally!
PS: If it makes you feel better, you should know that I have bookmarked it, and visit it at least two times per day!
GIRL! YOUR BLOG IS LIKE INSULIN TO ME!….i log daily and read your blog like a newspaper!…just forget bout them!…simply ignor them!…you helped me a lot!…so if you need any help in kick’n some ass just let me know!….and PLZ DO NOT STOP UR DAILY BLOG’N! WE SIMPLY LOVE IT!
You really inspire me!
It is a pity that there are trolls on the net who take pleasure in tearing others down. To me however, it is a sad reflection of their own insecurities.
I hope that this does not deter you from blogging in the future Susie. I adore your blog which is significant as I would hardly describe myself as a ‘fashionista’- okay I admit it I am nowhere near that!
I initially read your daily updates out of sheer curiousity; then your creativity, passion and sense of style converted me into a daily reader. It has inspired me to look at fashion in whole new light- minus the trivial factor that often comes with it.
I have bookmarked your blog- it is the only blog I read on a daily basis. I have also emailed friends your link insisting that this place is a must read. So I hope you continue to share your part of the world with us through your blog.
Please never stop I love your Blog!
Your blog is part of my morning ritual. Your enthusiasm for personal style is infectious and I love the multiple posts (your readers are getting spoiled since most bloggers post once a day!).
Ignore trolls who anonymously pitch insults (then run like the cowards they are). Don’t wallow in their negativity. Hit “DELETE” and move on. And keep up the great work!
When people make negative comments you should just remember that they don’t actually know you as a person, they’re just judging you on the superficial things. Ignore them!! I love your blog, it’s interesting, thoughtful, updated regularly and has fab pics! 🙂
I love your blog. I admit that I sometimes check it 3 times a day just to see if you’ve updated. I’m an avid reader of other fashion blogs, but your blog is my favorite because it’s more personalized, you post lots of pictures of yourself and you’re not afraid to wear something kooky. Please don’t give the negative feedback too much thought, there are so many people who love Susie Bubble!
Mostly what everyone else has said. Been reading your blog from the start its fab and couldn’t live without (as sad as that sounds) you have given me so much inspirtaion and information about fashion which I never knew, your blog has actually been the reason for my growing interest in fashion.
People are jealous so they’re the one with the problem. Jealousy is horrible but its always going to be there so try to ingore (I know its impossible really especially hurtful personal comments, which well arn’t true)because for one stupid jealous comment you get all the support from all the people you have inspired.
So overall keep doing what your doing as your blog is amazing (yes kiss arse but ah well its true)and I love your blog! So just thanks for all the effort you put in and all the information you supply. Sorry this has kind of turned into an essay, but yeah your fabulous! X
I love your blog! i check it a few times a day just to see if you’ve updated so don’t be deterred by a few immature readers. keep it up!
oh please, they are all just jealous. you’re young, pretty and near famous. You have a GREAT sense of style and an excellent wardrobe (Oh how I wish I could borrow some of those cute outfits and accessories you’ve got) On top of that you’re really creative which just keeps everyone coming back for more (including the jealous skanks). But if you put yourself out there you’re gonna have to develop thicker skin. Seriously. Just take in stride, babydoll.
this is my favorite fashion blog. the least pretentious, the most fun, the most creative, and the most real. you’ve got great ideas and you’ve even turned me on to the color grurple! anyone who leaves nasty comments is just jealous, because who sits and reads a blog just to leave mean things? i wouldn’t take it to heart. you’ve got so many readers who love you! keep writing, don’t punish the loyal readers for others’ jealousy!
Susie, I’ve only recently stumbled onto your blog, but it’s fast become my favourite. You are original and insightful, and your quirky sense of fashion has encouraged me to take more risks with my own style.
I check in with you a couple of times a day (I *love* that you post frequently!! Don’t hold back!!), and you’re just fabulous!
Pay no mind to negative comments and nasty emails — hell, take them as compliments. Fashion is like art – people are either going to love it or hate it. If they feel nothing, then you’re not doing it right :)))
If you stopped blogging then my weekend round-up would be pitifully devoid of your brilliant posts.
your sweet as pie, dont sweat the small stuff
I’m feeling a lot better now and people are right, if I am to put myself out there (I don’t think I could write my blog any other way, without bringing in my own personal experiences with fashion), then I must develop a thicker skin. Thanks everyone for your continued support. I’m really happy that people like this blog so much because *pssst* secretly, I’m kind of quite proud of it….
your blog as you know makes me happy. i think the more you push forward the more the world pushes back. with all the good reception you have received i think you are winning in this situation. don’t read it as soon as you know it is mean. it must be hard not to, but don’t and block it if you can. that stuff just takes your energy away. and probably the better you do the more of the bad stuff you will receive too. use this as practice for when you get all crazy famous. 😉
Any spite flying your way is only due to jealous Julias who wish they had the bubble-pizzaz and far out style you so effortlessly possess. Negativity is supposed to be trendy or something right…? So forgive them (and their–most likely–unimaginative allegience to oversized sweatshirts). This blog has carved out a special niche in my black patent leather online heart (no easy task). I commend you!
I have only been visiting your site for about a month, and I LOVE it. You are very articulate, educated, have a great sense of style, you are original, creative and real and who would imagine gurple… you (and maybe me I can see it, I love any shade of it). And I just think you should not concern yourself with self absorbed jerks who are jealous and do not have the b*lls or the v*g*n* to confront you face to face… If they say you are fat they are fatter… If they say you have ugly clothes – they have grotesque ones, and would not be seen in public… let alone the internet. I admire you for putting yourself out there, and those fat-ugly-grotesque ninnies who have nothing else to do but pick on beautiful people, AND could not even think of taking a picture of themselves and posting it on the internet…. I say — make your bed of silk and satin and the finest cotton, lie in it, and snub your nose at the fat, ugly, self aborbed ninnies who don’t have any b*lls.
I do not want to offend, per say, but of you do not like a blog, just do not visit it and keep your miserable life to yourself!
I can totally relate. I used to blog and my experience is that the more popular your blog get will translate into more viscous comments. Sadly I’m such a wimp that I couldn’t handle it. Tells very tragic things about how a lot of people react to other peoples fortune and success. This might not excactly be news but ignore those stupid comments and think about all the positive feedback you get. A lot of people love you for what you are doing!
As a TFS mod, I can say you have no idea the amount of spam and troll posted vitriol as well as bickering btw. members we delete on a daily basis. It truly is quite a task. But it is necessary to maintain the integrity of the site and keep it streamlined and on-focus for the members who care and new visitors.
I say, if its spam, send it to the trash.
xo
Congrats on the linkage.
please please don’t listen to any of the negativity.
your blog is so inspiring and your style is incredible!!
Your blog is my first online visit of the day! Jealousy is what it is, and if I were you, I’d block ‘a’s IP address because whilst a range of opinions may be insightful and interesting, offensive ones are not and so shouldn’t be entertained. Don’t ever stop doing this – your writing is fun, creative and interesting and even though I may not necessarily ever wear the type of things you do, I still enjoy seeing the enoyment you have in fashion and clothes, and that in itself inspires me.
girl, please. your blog’s way too addictive, inspiring, fresh, stimulating, accessible and fab for you to be paying any attention to trolls like a. love your creativity, generosity of spirit and infectious enthusiasm for fashion. please keep updating regularly so i get my stylebubble fix!
ugh, don’t worry about those silly, hateful people. your blog is a lovely addiction – i really enjoy your analysis and your creativity. keep writing, keep posting. 🙂
It’s so cliché…obvious jealousy. You should go on posting their comments so they can expose themselves for the common, ordinary clichés they are.
I don’t know who would dare send you nasty comments…. there’s nothing nasty to write about? I think that there just jealous because your a fabulous dresser.